Sarah Cooper Of course, I check them every day. Doesn’t everyone? Each day, my 10-year-old’s summer camp website posts several hundred photos of activities. Pool play, maccabiah games, horseback riding. The images are glorious. They show 8-year-olds dressed in white, 11-year-olds covered in sand: childhood at its most beautiful. My 7-year-old and I scroll through,…Read More
As Father’s Day (June 17) rolls around, we are mindful that it wasn’t that long ago when a father’s job was to attend his daughter’s pretend tea parties and make her a pretty dollhouse. But today’s fathers must navigate a new world and avoid gender specific roles. “The fathers of today’s girls need to be…Read More
There’s nothing like it,” my friends began saying. “Nothing in the world!” They weren’t talking kale or cilantro. Or the season’s best read. They were talking grandchildren. Yes, grandchildren. “Just wait,” they’d say, smug with a knowledge that admittedly I didn’t possess. I did have 63 combined years of parenting my now-adult children. That’s more…Read More
I am so excited to be a new member of the esteemed “Grandma Club.” My beautiful grandson is almost three weeks old, So as any good mom would do, I have been staying with my daughter and son-in-law to help out these first few weeks. And of course, I volunteered to take the night shift…Read More
by Blythe Lipman You’re a new mom and it’s time to leave the baby home with your significant other or g-d forbid, an actual babysitter that’s not a relative. Can you do it? Oy, the anxiety. A headache, a stomachache, …maybe you should stay home and rest. Really!! I don’t think so. I know how…Read More
Single-parent resource program connects families to the Jewish community.
Chances are, if you’re a single parent, you are consumed by such thoughts as “How am I going to afford everything now that I’m a single parent,” “What am I going to do to entertain my kids all weekend,” “How in the world do I fill out these college scholarship applications” and, of course, the dreaded “What’s for dinner?”
These thoughts are probably keeping you up at night, away from the sleep you so desperately need now that you are “doing it all.”
Whether you have little ones at home or kids in college, single parenthood has its innate challenges, and sometimes you just need a little help.
The Jewish Federation of Metropolitan Detroit has brought back an essential program for single Jewish parents in our community. SPARC (SingleRead More
Would you puh-leeze stop hovering?
I watched coverage of this year’s White House Easter egg roll with a certain amount of foreboding, waiting for one of the television correspondents to report Secret Service snipers firing warning shots at the helicopter parents who were fighting over the eggs.
Of course, the national terrorist threat level hadn’t been raised since the city of Colorado Springs cancelled its Easter Egg hunt in March for the same reason, so I guess I should have kept eating my matzah and chilled with a nice glass of Magen David.Read More
Can too many children ruin a marriage?
During a recent family fun day, hundreds of children scampered happily across the grounds of Temple Israel in West Bloomfield — some romped in giant bounce houses, others shrieked with joy on carnival rides. Attentive parents chased little ones from the food tent to various attractions. Moms and dads stood in line with their children, snapped photos, pushed baby strollers, carried cranky toddlers, took kids on potty breaks and even managed a few meltdowns.
Randi Manson of West Bloomfield was a real trouper, running alongside her 4-year-old daughter, Ava. Manson, 31, is eight months pregnant with her second child, a boy. “I want to have three children,” she says. “We’ll see what happens after this one, though, realistically. I’ve heard it’s harder to go from one to two — so, we’ll see.”
To some, it may seem “the more the merrier” should be the rule-of-thumb when it comes to having children. But Dr. Alan Singer, a New Jersey-based researcher, family therapist and author of the self-help book, Creating Your Perfect Family Size: How to Make An Informed Decision About Having a Baby, says, “Not so fast!”
My son gave me “the look” for the first time the other day. You know the one I’m talking about — where, with one exasperated roll of the eyes, your once sweet, adoring child conveys the message that you are hopelessly, irredeemably … un-cool.
My first reaction was denial. My son must have been directing his eye-roll at some older, lamer dad sitting behind me because — me — un-cool? That just wasn’t possible.
I was the first kid in fifth grade to wear a Members Only jacket. I started listening to U2 while other kids my age were still singing “Row Your Boat,” and I can quote long passages of The Breakfast Club by heart. Only a neo-maxi-zoom-dweebie could fail to see how “with it” I am. Besides, I was a champion eye-roller myself as a teen, acutely aware of, and suitably mortified by, every un-cool thing my parents said, did and wore. Surely, I hadn’t become exactly like them.
Then it hit me: The Breakfast Club is almost 30 years old (likely to be seen next on Turner Classic Movies), the guys in U2 will soon be AARP-eligible and the only remaining members of that once-cool jacket club are grandfathers who have combed the clearance racks at TJ Maxx.